Mother guilt.

From a therapists point of view:

Topic: Mother guilt.

Firstly it is a deep privilege to work with women ( and men ) and explore the aspects of their worlds that bring them difficulties and challenges.

Guilt in general:

This can be applied liberally and creatively across every aspect of motherhood and even beyond for really creative people, it’s intense and as relentless for some as OCD.

It’s the nagging perfectionism and self judgment that tortures certain people. Often the same mums that have given so much devotion to their children that they have lost a bounded sense of self.

The very ones that inflict guilt upon themselves without acknowledgment of their years of outright devotion and service to their children or minimise it in their psyche because it’s part of getting it right in their minds.

Within this landscape of loss of self, boundaries are dissolved.

Children are born to us but not of us says Kahil Gibran the Sufi mystic.

Recognition of this separation is important psychologically. We are all unified yet separate, like atoms within a living being.

As parents our primary role is to imprint these little souls with values and skills that can assist them in coping with the rigours of life.

My approach for this is to help rebalance the expectations and the perceptions within the reality.

And to deal with how this aspect of our psyche is held in the body - release its effects and start a fresh.

Guilt is held in many places in our physiology: this is some of the focus points that I would address physiologically- predominantly in the sacral/sex chakra, which leads to reduced relationship dynamics and other sexually related issues, the navel chakra which relates to self identity and self esteem, often leading to digestive issues, the throat by reflection, shame especially, leading to limited communication perspectives, the heart/ lungs holding life grief and minute sadnesses. Sadnesses that get amplified and held as guilt and hopelessness held in the heart.

Guilt is like the nuns or monks of centuries gone by, flagellating themselves with psychological whips, silently chanting their unworthiness.

We modernise these rituals in more subtle and private ways.

This sounds extreme as a correlation, but the unworthiness is the key here. It’s just a matter of calibration really. How brutal will you be with yourself remains the question?

There are more physical areas to energetically explore also: liver and gallbladder connections for anger and control including confusion, and bladder for frustration.

I have to read the person to get a sense of where they are holding the emotion.

The body will hold to the culture and personality of the person as well as their attitudes.

“Progress not perfection” is a great mantra when this type of psychological stress is being applied.

Like trauma, there is no capacity to pick up the often large chucks of amazing support and talented applications that the person has enacted in motion with their kids, the focus inevitably ends up back on the disappointments.

Like dark volcanoes on the plateau of life, the disappointments become the focus points. Often completely out of proportion to the depth and extent of activities applied in any given month or year of parental life.

Being a woman is sacred enough, and being a mum is an absolutely beautiful extension of womanhood.

Reconnecting with the sacredness of your being within womanhood is a great place to start - remembering the initial stages and steps of life’s journey before you adapted to being a mother, alongside often a partner and worker in society.

Perspectives are powerful. Regaining your compassion for yourself is important, the courage of a human life is important.

Compassion is an issue for the heart, and this heart wisdom is just the medicine for the illusions of guilt.

Start a fresh, touch your children, talk to them, communicate your feelings if it’s appropriate, and live life to the fullest.

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